Arranged marriages and generation gaps

A post in an irritated mood . Do not read beyond as you might not like it. Excuse my language.
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As much as I like our traditions, sometimes I really think we should try to be willing to move with the generation.
I really don't know how to verbalize what I am thinking.

There were days when women also were confined to the home and marriages were decided by the parents/elders in the family. Girl was never asked if she is willing to meet the guy , well leave alone meeting, the whole decision of marrying that guy is made without even informing her.

Girls are always brougt up in a way that she listens to elders, respects elders, adjusts easily for everything, give in for everything, do not talk to guys ,mind her business, if she needs to go anywhere, just go with someone she knew.
It is called a good brought-up.
Hmm but how fair is that you send away this girl with someone who is completely a stranger to her . How fair is that this decision is not made by her at all.
It is an issue of prestige to the parents. But how about her whole life with that guy. You can argue that parents will always mean good to the children, but do you ask what she wants?

Gone are those days now. Why should we do the drama of dressing up the girl and exhibiting her to a bunch of people who come and stare her from top to toe. So humiliating. It is not your generation. We don't want to be exhibits.
What a official "checkout the girl" programme!!!.

And what do I call these guys who just come with parents and keep smiling and do not even want to talk to the girl at all. They think they are being good sons if they say, I have nothing to talk. If my parents are ok, I am ok too. Wow...wonderful. These #$^& (sorry) don't even realize that the girl also has some expectations and she also needs to approve him. Why do these guys think so high of themselves. Does it have to be Yes if he says Yes.
And what do I call the guys who say they don't even know what to talk. HOw Dumb!Dude, You are not even ready to get married ;you don't even know what is getting into relationship. Just like you have a car, a house, you want a wife?

Why does girl's family also act like we got to be extremely obedient to the guy's family. Tell me one valid reason. I think you have to be polite enough , as you are with others;no need of additional drama to satisfy their ego and boost it up.
Why do they overrule all the expectations of the girl.
Why not let her take her decision and god-forbid if at all, let her repent for her decision than repent for their decisions made for her own life.
How can you be so mean asking to meet someone for less than an hour and spend life with that fellow.
Don't you know a known devil is better than an unknown angel?