Studious girls shouldn't look good
Growing up, somehow I always had a bad impression on girls who always cared about how they look, who go to beauty parlor, who are stylish etc. I am not sure what exactly created that impression for me. I believe, some comments from my family about such girls or my own ambitious nature which actually felt that you are either intelligent or beautiful probably made me feel you can't be both.
I still remember and have a smile on my face as I remember the first day of college. (Well it was a girls college - I was just among girls for the most part of life anyways). So, on that first day, there were a bunch of girls who kept walking in and out of the classroom almost at every break. Stood in the balcony almost every now and then, kept giggling and kept going to the canteen whenever they could. I immediately, told myself that I am going to keep myself away from them. I was instantly so judgmental about them.
Even when I came for my masters to this country, I don't think I really ever cared much (ever through out my studies here or for that matter, through out my career until recently) on how I look , do I look trendy or look smart or not.
I always wanted to be and known as an intelligent girl or smart girl . It look many many years for me that it is not "wrong" to groom yourself and look neat and decent. I still don't think I can look so hep and modern. But I am just changing my outlook and opinion that it is okay and important to have some dress sense.
In fact I used to be very judgmental about talking to guys too. No wonder I am still single :) Haha, jokes apart , but if I look back, for the most part, I have always given that "not approachable" attitude to most guys who work with me. I am glad I have good friends in life(one of them is my roommate) who tell me that I cannot be like this and guys are not my enemies and there is nothing wrong in having a smiling face and talking to them.. My roommate thinks that I have a virtual board on my face and the way I look at a guy has a message on that board that "don't even dare looking at me or talking to me". I really hope I stopped being that grumpy girl . Well, probably people still might mistake my shyness to some attitude though.
I still remember and have a smile on my face as I remember the first day of college. (Well it was a girls college - I was just among girls for the most part of life anyways). So, on that first day, there were a bunch of girls who kept walking in and out of the classroom almost at every break. Stood in the balcony almost every now and then, kept giggling and kept going to the canteen whenever they could. I immediately, told myself that I am going to keep myself away from them. I was instantly so judgmental about them.
Even when I came for my masters to this country, I don't think I really ever cared much (ever through out my studies here or for that matter, through out my career until recently) on how I look , do I look trendy or look smart or not.
I always wanted to be and known as an intelligent girl or smart girl . It look many many years for me that it is not "wrong" to groom yourself and look neat and decent. I still don't think I can look so hep and modern. But I am just changing my outlook and opinion that it is okay and important to have some dress sense.
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