Why are you not married/When are you getting married

If anybody knows somebody is single -that is what people would want to ask/directly ask.

Why am I not married - coz I didn't find Mr.Right -isn't it as simple as that?

When am I getting married - You know, I really wish I know..

Hmm..I believe, these days it is getting so complicated for both men and women to find a partner.

But as a girl, I would have my biases. Somehow I feel that is getting very difficult to find a suitable guy for a girl who has studied in the US. Well everyone advises me that I should relax the criteria that the guy should also have studied in the US. I am only asking someone who has similarly pursued higher education here. It is only for a reason - that we could probably relate to each other better and have a similar outlook on life which would make life easier. I could be wrong, I am willing to consider someone if I really happen to meet somebody.

Sometimes , not just about me, when I talk to friends, who are in similar boat, it makes me feel that there are very less well suitable guys who would really deserve someone as special as the girl is.

If guys are reading this, I know you will hate me , but I really don't know the story from your side. I can only talk from my experiences or  my friends. So, sorry, I am not generalizing.

It is really sad that most of the time , we have to rely on the online matrimonial sites and sometimes it just feels like any other online shopping. Come on, "find look alikes" and "find similar profiles" make me feel so. And can I vent about the pictures - it is really irritating when someone posts a picture with sunglasses. If you are thinking that you are being so cool - I am sorry, that isn't the impression we are getting. At least post some other pictures along with that Mr.cool pictures. And the pictures that some post with some other people in it - do they have any clue that they are on your matrimony site. It really doesn't take long to crop a picture. And if you are posting a picture with a girl next to you , with your hand on her shoulder,as though you are in a club with her, can't really understand why you are on the matrimony site at all. I get very puzzled when someone posts a picture with a hand on nose, taken with a webcam. It really doesn't seem like a thinking pose. And taking a very similar picture in different angles with a webcam really doesn't help much. You definitely don't have to go to a studio to get your portrait done. Just post something recent and decent when you expect those infinite qualities(Fair, slim, beautiful, tall, good looking, well educated, pretty,career oriented, adjustable,modern but traditional,  pleasant, cooperative, down to earth)  you want in the girl. I really don't understand why people post extremely old pictures when they were looking so good and when you either meet in person or see a most recent picture, you would actually think this is a different person. Probably some girls also do this and guys may complain the same too. Regardless of the gender, this is really getting problematic. Given all this, probably love marriages - falling in love during college days would not have been a bad idea at all :)

Studious girls shouldn't look good

Growing up, somehow I always had a bad impression on girls who always cared about how they look, who go to beauty parlor, who are stylish etc. I am not sure what exactly created that impression for me. I believe, some comments from my family about such girls or my own ambitious nature which actually felt that you are either intelligent or beautiful probably made me feel you can't be both.

I still remember and have a smile on my face as I remember the first day of college. (Well it was a girls college - I was just among girls for the most part of life anyways). So, on that first day, there were a bunch of girls who kept walking in and out of the classroom almost at every break. Stood in the balcony almost every now and then, kept giggling and kept going to the canteen whenever they could. I immediately, told myself that I am going to keep myself away from them. I was instantly so judgmental about them.

Even when I came for my masters to this country, I don't think I really ever cared much (ever through out my studies here or for that matter, through out my career until recently) on how I look , do I look trendy or look smart or not.

I always wanted to be and known as an intelligent girl or smart girl . It look many many years for me that it is not "wrong" to groom yourself and look neat and decent. I still don't think I can look so hep and modern. But I am just changing my outlook and opinion that it is okay and important to have some dress sense.

In fact I used to be very judgmental about talking to guys too. No wonder I am still single :) Haha, jokes apart , but if I look back, for the  most part, I have always given that "not approachable" attitude to most guys who work with me. I am glad I have good friends in life(one of them is my roommate) who tell me that I cannot be like this and guys are not my enemies and there is nothing wrong in having a smiling face and talking to them.. My roommate thinks that I have a virtual board on my face and the way I look at a guy has a message on that board that "don't even dare looking at me or talking to me".  I really hope I stopped being that grumpy girl . Well, probably people still might mistake my shyness to some attitude though. 

Appreciating small things in life..

I was driving one of the mornings from my brother's house and within my 41 mile drive it was raining little bit in few segments of my drive. As I was almost approaching office, there was this beautiful rainbow. It instantly made me so happy and I found myself so cheerful and smiling. I do love the area where my office is and the natural beauty surrounding it.

 It is only some small things in life that make us so happy.

As simple as smiles of kids, rainbow in the sky etc. I was thinking of what are the other things that I make me happy. I am somehow fond of watching landing of a flight too. Most other simplest things I really love are listening to a good song while driving. Reading a good book on a friday night is so much fun as well. Reading a good book while having good coffee in Barnes and Noble is another thing I love. Being in library or Barnes and Noble makes me happy too. Being in a good university, being a student is something I really love. Golden gate bridge in San Francisco makes me so happy. Mickey mouses make me smile. Talking to friends, to those with whom I connect so well that it really doesn't matter that I am talking after 3 or 4 years, that conversation with such a dear friend really lifts up my mood.I must have blogged some of these already in this link

 I think these days I am liking the listening to the songs on radio while driving. A well spent weekend - either done with all my to-dos or well rested with no to-dos left :) ofcourse, getting a small appreciation from anyone for what I did - as small a "good" from instructor for any class that I am taking. Now that I am actually kind of paying some attention to my dressing etc, I think I am being happy sometimes if people say they like my dress or ear rings or my shoes etc. Well I must admit that it is quite funny that I didn't notice much for most of my life that guys sometimes do check out when I wear anything fitting. I know guys check out girls, but I never really noticed anyone checking me out until recently. I have always been in my own world, thinking about some idea or absorbed into just my own world. Well, sometimes if someone completely stares, they make me feel uncomfortable. Appreciation might be much different than checking out. (My friends say that is a part of life and being feminine. I missed that phase totally in life - the transition between child and adult. That teenage drama etc is all missed.)

Toddler girl with dad

I went to the laundry and was coming back into the apartment and saw a young dad and his toddler girl playing in the sand in the volleyball court area and it was so adorable to see that dad playing with that little girl. I was approaching my apartment and I saw another young dad talking to a cutest toddler girl riding her tricycle. I find it extremely cute and fascinating to see the young dads with their baby girls.

Look forward to what?

I was thinking back at the days when I was a student or just started working. I started to feel that I was a lot more enthusiastic, ambitious and used to dream more about the future on the kind of things I could accomplish. I think , after sometime in career and after sometime in life, if we feel like we have reached a point where there is nothing to look forward to, it isn't that much of a great feeling. At every phase of life, there has to be something to look forward to to keep the life interesting. We should let the life or career to get stagnant.
I am getting back on to track these days to learn new skills, do stuff that I always wanted to do, such as pursuing some hobbies etc. Just need to continue doing this stuff.

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Irritation

I feel these days I am getting way too irritated for some small things. I know they are small things but still..Hmm!! I used to be highly irritatable. It has actually been few years that small things irriate me this much. I was a teenager back then, if I have to refresh my memory on when was the last I was so irriated to this degree.

Ok, so what is irritating the heck out of me these days - somebody at work in the next aisle makes some annoying sound with his mouth while chewing. I believe he keeps chewing a gum all the time and makes the most annoying sound. More so , right after lunch.I have to invest in some noise cancellation head phones - don't know if that would shield from these kind of noises. I have to trick my mind somehow not to get irritated with this kind of crap.


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